Rob’s been on the road several weeks in a row. I’ve been trying to find that sweet spot where I’m still the parent I want to be but not making my life harder than it needs to be.
I learned the phrase, “let the Wookiee win” from Parent Hacks.
In the name of Letting the Wookiee win, I’ve recently done the following:
Cut back on the crazy when it comes to feeding my daughter healthy food. I’m giving in to a few convenience options and making super-simple recipes more than I had been.
Let my daughter go without a bath longer than usual.
Romy decided she doesn’t want to sit in a chair for breakfast anymore: she’s recently taken to eating in front of her high chair on the lowest setting. I just put her food on the tray and she mostly stands there to eat.
Cut back on the potty training intensity. She initiated potty training a few weeks ago, but is terrible about getting on the potty in the morning. Our mornings are stressful enough. She can have a diaper or put a pull-up on without sitting on the potty and I’ve had to compromise on this.
Where I won’t compromise:
Early bedtime (6:30-7). I was putting her to bed as late as 7:15 for about a week and that was a disaster. Whatever time it freed up between getting home from work & daycare was not worth the tantrums.
Healthy food eaten together at mealtimes.
Family rules: putting your toys away, saying thank you.
It’s really hard to find a great balance. I have beliefs and values when it comes to discipline, education, child care. I don’t want to look back on my early years of parenting and say, “I wish I hadn’t let her get away with that,” and I worry about developing bad habits. But relieving some of the pressure on the points where it doesn’t matter as much to me is helping me deal better. I realized the other week was just lovely because I didnt’ feel so pressured by my own expectations.
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